Beyond battles and territorial expansion, the historical account presents Rao Bida Ji as a figure deeply connected to his family.
In one such event, Kunwar Rajsee, displeased with his father Rao Bika Ji, came to his uncle Bida Ji. Since Bida Ji had twelve sons of his own, they feared that Kunwar Rajsi might claim a share among their Jagir. Bida Ji then clearly told his sons “Bida has only grown old; he is not dead yet. I can create a separate estate for Rajsee, but I will not divide your inheritance. Because of this, a campaign was launched against Mung Singh Mohil and after defeating him, that territory was granted to Kunwar Rajsee Bikawat which was named “Rajaldeshar”.
Stories surrounding his sons, relatives and fellow Rathore rulers reveal recurring themes of affection, sacrifice and selflessness. The account of the three cushions during the family coronation is particularly associated with this character.
The account of the three cushions during the family coronation is particularly associated with this character. During Rao Bika Ji’s coronation, he ordered that three royal cushions (seats) of equal height be placed in the coronation court. At the time of the coronation, Rao Kandhal Ji and Bida Ji arrived first at the court and saw three equal seats. On query from Kandhal Ji the courtiers replied that the arrangement had been made on Bika Ji’s orders. Upon hearing this, Kandhal Ji lifted the two side cushions with the tip of his sword and placed them beneath the middle cushion, which was meant for Rao Bika Ji, saying “There can only be one king, and the king of this land shall remain Bika alone. Despite repeated request from Rao Bika Ji, Kandhal Ji and Bida Ji did not allow Bika Ji to step down. In the history of the world, such an example of sacrifice and selflessness is considered very rare.
There was deep mutual affection and unshakable trust between the two brothers, Bika ji and Bida ji as well as between uncle Kandhal Ji and uncle Mandlo Ji. On one occasion, Rao Kandhal Ji, together with his two nephews (Rao Bika Ji and Rao Bida Ji), went to the estate of Rao Mandlo Ji at Sarunda and requested some horses. Mandlo Ji had a somewhat humorous nature, so outwardly he delayed giving assistance. At this, Bika Ji and Bida Ji approached Mandlo Ji’s queen, Sankhali Ji who also happened to be their maternal aunt and told her “Uncle Sahib is delaying in giving us horses; please show us some way out.” Queen Sankhali Ji replied: “ “You are familiar with your uncle’s nature. Whose horses are these? They are yours as well. Queen Sankhali Ji secretly sent the keys of the stable to Bika Ji and Bida Ji with the message “Take as many horses as you need.” Bika Ji and Bida Ji took 200 horses from the stables. The next morning, when they met Rao Mandlo Ji before departure, they said “You did not give us horses; we received them from our maternal aunt.” Rao Mandlo Ji looked toward Queen Sankhali Ji and smilingly said “I have always helped my nephews. Today, your aunt has also shown her affection.” This incident beautifully reflects the warmth and affection within the family.
His relationships with members of the wider family, including the establishment of Rajaldeshar for Kunwar Rajsee, form an important part of the human side of his legacy.